We can never know that we can’t do something; we can only know that we haven’t yet done so.
I watched an athlete perform during the Olympics and after winning a gold medal, she revealed that she listed to the song, I Know I Can, before every competition. Here’s the chorus, which is sung by kids:
I know I can
Be what I wanna be
If I work hard at it
I’ll be where I wanna be
It’s a great song, positive and empowering. As is the quotation at the top, from 5 Mindfulness Steps That Guarantee Increased Success And Vitality. Often, our athletes are too quick to say what they can’t do and what Dr. Langer found out is it’s an impossibility to know you can’t do something. How about that? It’s a powerful message.
Of course, poor mindset—like thinking and verbalizing you can’t do something—can create an environment where success will be difficult. So that’s where we coaches come in to save the day. For an athlete to say they can’t perform a skill or a team to say they can’t find the success that’s eluded them is a falsehood. So how can we intervene to stop the negative self-talk and help our teams test their limits.
2 ways mindfulness will help our athletes challenge their limits
- Encourage dreaming. What if our athletes went beyond setting goals? Goals are great and motivating, but can be limiting. Perhaps they can be separate categories. Your team can set goals but also have “why not us?” sessions. Dream big. Why not?
- Redefine failure. I had a team that had a goal of winning the conference championship. We didn’t win, we lost in the finals and we were all devastated. We set a goal and we failed. I can tell you something, I’ve never had a more motivated team in the off-season. We won the championship the following year, in no small part, because of our failure the previous year.
Mindfulness means being present. Mindfulness means being aware of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment.
Saying, “I can’t”, isn’t mindful because it lives in the future. We should encourage our athletes to stay present. Worrying about the mistake they’ve just made isn’t being mindful because it lives in the past. We’ve got to help our athletes fight and battle to stay in the moment…it’s the only thing they can control.
If we consistently challenge their mindset and mindfulness, our athletes will blow through any limits they think they may have.