A great way to make deposits in the Emotional Bank Account is by utilizing John Maxwell’s 30-Second Rule that he outlines in his outstanding book, “25 Ways to Win With People.” In face, this entire book is a great resource in the art of making positive deposits in those that you work with, live with, and care about.
Here are some of the suggestions from Maxwell:
30-Second Rule: within the first thirty seconds of a conversation, say something encouraging to a person.
1. The 30-Second Rule Gives People the Triple-A Treatment.All people feel better and do better when you give the attention, affirmation, and appreciation.
“A gossip is one who talks to you about other people. A bore is one who talks to you about himself. And a brilliant conversationalist is one who talks to you about yourself.”-William King-
2. The 30-Second Rule Gives People EnergyPsychologist Henry H. Goddard conducted a study on energy levels in children using an instrument he called “ergograph.” His findings are fascinating. He discovered that when tired children were given a word of praise or commendation, the ergograph shows an immediate upward surge of energy in the children. When the children were criticised or discouraged, the ergograph shows that their physical energy took a sudden nosedive.
3. The 30-Second Rule Instills MotivationVince Lombardi, the famed Green Bay Packers football coach, was a feared disciplinarian. But he was also a great motivator. One day he chewed out a player who had missed several blocking assignments. After practice, Lombardi stormed into the locker room and saw that player was sitting at his locker, head down, dejected. Lombardi mussed his hair, patted him on the shoulder, and said, “One of these days, you’re going to be the best guard in the NFL.”
That player was Jerry Kramer…he went on to become a member of the Green Bay Packers’ Hall of Fame and a member of the NFL’s All-50-Year Team.
Never underestimate the power of motivation:
–Motivation helps people who know what they should do…to do it!
–Motivation helps people who know what commitment they should make…to make it!
–Motivation helps people who know what habit they should break…to break it!
–Motivation helps people who know what path they should take…take it!
–Motivation makes it possible to accomplish what you should accomplish.
“Those who add to us, draw us to them. Those who subtract, cause us to withdraw.”-John C. Maxwell-