It doesn’t seem like too many people are interested in my goal setting, but that’s ok. I guess that’s why they’re mine in the first place. 🙂
My last category of goals deals with how I can do better with the people in my life. When my best friend first asked me what kind of relationship-related goals I wanted to make for 2011, I quickly responded FIND A HUSBAND! And as much as I was kidding…I wasn’t totally kidding. She reminded me that I don’t really have any control over that, that it’s all in God’s perfect timing and blah, blah, blah. And I get it, really I do. So we decided on a compromise…
Ask God to continue to work on the woman that I am, so that someone will want to catch a grenade for me. (If you don’t listen to Top 40, I can’t help you with that one.) As fabulous as I am, I still have some serious flaws…and you think this is your chance to tell me how un-fabulous I am, you are totally missing the point. I am a total work in progress and I always will be. But the more time I take to figure out who I am and grow into the woman I want to be, the more likely I am to attract the kind of person I desire to be with. And that is something I have total control over.
Be nicer to people. This may seem like a “fluff” statement, but I assure you it’s not. Generally speaking, I am a nice person…to people I know. But far too often I meet people and after they get to know me, they tell me that before they knew me they thought I was mean…or stuck up…or intimidating…basically, just not nice. I have no desire to be any of those things, but I also don’t want people thinking that I might be. So I think what it boils down to is putting more effort in to how I come across to people.
Learn to love. This past year I read this book called “The Five Love Languages.” I think I read it a tad too late to help with the current situation I was in, but it taught me a lot about how to love. Now I need to apply it. Sure, it was written for romantic relationships, but I think it works for all the relationships in your life. Then, once I do have a stable, committed romantic relationship in my life, I can put all my newfound knowledge to use. Then it’s a done deal. I will be basically perfect at that point. 🙂