Recently I have been hearing all these “jokes” that are really not funny. I didn’t, even for a second, wonder if I was losing my sense of humor because, as it states in my bio, I am a “fun haver”, which means that I do, and will forever, love laughing, jokes, sarcasm, and having a good time. But how can I have a good time, how can I laugh with these rude and blatantly sexist jokes? It all started when I saw a Facebook status of an acquaintance, which said:
“[Friends name] should kick [talented female collegiate basketball player’s name] in the balls”.
WHAT?! That’s supposed to be funny? Am I missing something?? Nope. I’m not. This athlete doesn’t have balls, she has talent. This is the ugly part of society and sexism in sport. I kept myself calm when responding to this post, even though I was upset for this and every female athlete that hears these kinds of jokes. I was shocked when people told me that it “was just a joke”, but was even more shocked when I realized that many of these responders were women. One of these women was a basketball player herself.
Just when I feel like we are making way, with all the hype of this years Women’s NCAA Championship, collegiate programs dedicated to women in sport, men and women getting involved in their daughters athletic life, men and women supporting female athletes and teams by showing up, watching, and writing about their games, and websites like espnW and Women Talk Sports, I hear things like this that make it evident that general society is not quite where we are in regards to women in sport.
Jokes are made of female athletes because they are “not as good” as male players, and now there are jokes made of them when they are very talented? I guess I don’t want people who are so quick to make jokes about this to decide which way they are going to play this fence, I would rather that they understand where I am coming from; understand why I don’t think this is funny. Unfortunately, there isn’t enough room to comment on someone’s status about what that is rude and not funny. I would have had to site many posts, articles, and websites that explained this in detail, and although I could not do that, I could explain a bit…
It’s language that carries the meanings of the things we say. When we say jokes about “taking the tampon out” when someone is complaining, “stop being a pussy” when someone is showing weakness or claiming that a female athlete has “balls”, we are basically slamming women. When I hear that, I always tell the person that just because I wear tampons doesn’t mean that I complain more than guys,