The following comments were left by a fan of mine on three separate posts yesterday. Someone who thinks I’m awful and will never accomplish any of my goals spent a good amount of time reading my blog (the posts were from different times of the year) and then wanted to share what they thought of me. To him(or her), I say thank you.
-No, you’re not THAT important as you are only known because you’ve gotten a link to T&FN;. I follow the sport and can’t think of anything that you’ve done that was significant, for if you did I would know about it.
-You are not going to make it to London, that is certain. Many try and after all these years, it’s clear that you don’t have it. Nothing personal, just a fact. Anyone who wastes as much time as you do on a silly meaningless blog is not putting her energy into the right places. Having confidence is one thing, but you’ve gone overboard and unfortunately your friends aren’t real friends because they would tell you. How sad. Fabulous life?
-I am not Tobias, but you really make too much out of yourself and bring it on yourself. It’s not THAT hard but you want people to think so. I know many top athletes who work WAY harder than you and complain less. I live in Michigan btw, come and visit if you want a REAL workout. Btw, you are not that important but you surely want to believe it to justify your actions.
Any time someone leaves a comment on my blog, I read it. If I wasn’t willing to accept the feedback then I may as well have a diary stashed under my bed. I am always grateful for the people who acknowledge my random thoughts, who give me words of encouragement, and who provide different forms of motivation, sometimes in the most unknowing ways. The only thing that took some time getting used to, is the motivation that came in the form of negative comments. At first it used to ruffle my feathers something fierce and I would be appalled at the audacity of some folks to take time out of their lives to write rude and unjustifiable comments anonymously. The anonymous part is what got me most of all. Sure, you don’t have to think I’m the best thing since sliced bread, but if you want to tell me how UN-awesome I am, the least you can do is sign your name to it. Own it. But more often than not, haters on the web don’t work that way. They come up with their own reasons why you will fail or why you shouldn’t try, and they feel it’s their duty to share it with you. But now I’ve learned to be grateful for my anonymous’ commenters. I read their comments and I don’t bat an eyelash. I love the fact that I remain unaffected by people who don’t believe in me, because it shows me how much I’ve grown to believe in myself and how that belief has deepened over the years, regardless of what I have or have not accomplished, and regardless of what anyone else may think–good or bad. I don’t gain my confidence from anyone else so it would certainly make no sense for me to lose it over anyone either.
I learned a long time ago that you only need two people to believe in you in order to accomplish something. You and God. Anybody else is icing on the cake…and in my world, anyone who doesn’t is the cherry.