FEATURED ARTICLE by Erica Quam
What habits are you bringing this season? Part 2 of 3.
We’re taking a closer look at your daily habits in the following 3 areas:
- SUPPORT – This week we’ll focus on support.
- SELF CARE
We’ll look again at a simple 3-question yes or no survey about how you get support:
- When someone asks you your goals, do you instantly quickly rattle off the 3 things your team wants to achieve this season?
- As you get into the heart of your season, do you spend time thinking about all the other jobs you could be doing that would pay more money and be less work?
- Do you frequently come home and unload the many frustrations of your day onto your partner?
If you answered yes to any of these questions, then try implementing one of the following new habits to get better support for yourself this season.
1. SET YOUR OWN GOALS
It’s easy as a coach to focus so much on our teams and forget about ourselves. The reality is, the more you work on yourself, the better YOU will be for others.
What are YOUR goals for the season – not your team’s goals, not your athletic department’s goals…what do YOU want to
accomplish this year?
GATHER SUPPORT: As you set your goals in that area, reach out to someone you admire who would rank themselves high in the area you want to improve. Maybe there’s something you can do to help them too!
2. CREATE MOMENTUM
During the midst of your season when your team is storming and challenges begin to pile up, it’s easy to lose sight of the reasons you coach. Here are a few ideas to create momentum and stay out of the mid-season doldrums:
- 3 Reasons: Take time to write down a few of the reasons you coach while you are fresh, energized, and optimistic. Pull this list out to remind yourself on those difficult days!
- 90/10 Rule: Focus on the 90% that’s going well instead of the 10% that’s not. On the days that are the hardest, before you leave your office to go home, write down a list of 4 to 5 people who: did what you asked, accomplished something new, stepped up as a leader, said thank you, or did a great job. Many times we leave focusing on the 1 or 2 people that made our lives (and the team’s lives) miserable. They don’t deserve that much of your time or energy.
- Smile file: If you don’t have one yet, start a smile file. When you get a thank you card or email, put it in there. If someone tells you thank you or something that they appreciate about you, write it down so you can remember it. During those times when you wonder why you coach, pull out your file to help you remember.
GATHER SUPPORT: Find an accountability buddy who will do this activity with you. Make a pact to contact that person when times get tough to remind you of your purpose.
Most of us complain everyday. The average person complains between 15 and 30 times per day. Some people are addicted to complaining. Why? Because it makes us feel better (in the short term)! Because people will agree how hard we have it! Because it is what everyone does!
Why should you change this habit?
- What you focus on grows: Energy flows where attention goes. Complaining about problems and verbalizing them creates a constant flow of negative energy.
- Complaining is a convenient way to stay STUCK! We are great at distracting ourselves. Complaining is just a distraction. That’s all. It wastes time. It steals energy. You can’t create a better reality by focusing on your current unhappiness and complaining.
- Choose to create and not react. If you are constantly judging, complaining, and criticizing others, you are living your life reactively instead of creatively. Put yourself back in the driver’s seat!
GATHER SUPPORT: This is a tough one to change – especially if you have people in your life you complain to and vice versa.
An easy way to ‘excuse yourself’ from complaining is to explain to the other person that you are on a 21-day mission to go “complaint-free.” Share why you are doing it…maybe they’ll do it too! Then CHOOSE to surround yourself with more positive people. You’ll be amazed at the different energy you will experience in your life!
Which of these 3 will make the biggest difference for you?
What specifically will you change over the next 21-days to create a shift for yourself and have the support that you need when times get tough?
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